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February 04, 2026
Who is my neighbor? This is the question that the young lawyer asks which leads to Jesus famous parable of the good Samaritan, surprising the lawyer and the audience. It is because the neighbor is a Samaritan, one known as an enemy. (Luke 10:25-37).
Similarly, in Jesus Sermon on the Mount, he names the need to love our enemies. So perhaps we need to actually name who we think our enemies are, to be intentional in how we love them.
I always thought of myself as a likeable person, until I became a senior pastor. For 15 years of being an associate pastor, I seemed to be well received and had lots of affirmation in ministry. Once I started leading a church as a senior pastor, and defined as the “final decision maker” in too many scenarios, I quickly found I had many people calling me an enemy. It was surprising how quickly someone with whom I thought I was aligned, turned to backbiting and badmouthing me. It was hurtful, because I felt judged unfairly, unheard in my intention, and assumed to be harmful. Just because I was trying to lead a church and making decisions that were not in agreement with some, did not mean that we needed to be enemies. And yet I found that the more hearts were calloused toward me, the more my heart became calloused. Isn’t it interesting how even treating someone like an enemy by believing the worst of them, can turn them into an enemy? So after 12 years of ministry as a senior pastor now, I suppose I can say that I do have enemies, as much as I hate to admit it. I have not reconciled with every person who has been unkind to me, or said hurtful words to harm me, or even made me out to be something I am not. I have enemies, not because I want them, but because I am not perfect in my love for people.
Jesus says that the only way we can be complete or whole in our discipleship (often translated “perfect”) is to love our enemies. This is what he means when he says “be perfect, therefore, as your Heavenly Father is perfect.” (Matthew 5:48) And the only way to do this is through prayer. Prayer invites God into our definition of enemy, by asking God to help us understand their perspective: to open our hearts to compassion, open our minds to listen to the other side, open our intention to believe in the image of God in each person. This leads us to not assume the worst of another and invite forgiveness in a reconciled relationship. It’s a lifelong journey.
I’m not sure who you might call your enemies, but I know there is a lot of name-calling, assumptions made about other’s intentions, and backbiting in our national culture right now.
I’m not perfect, and neither are you.
This is why we must define our enemies.
So we can name them in prayer to help soften our hearts, listen to God’s care of them, and trust God’s grace to guide us into reconciled relationship.